AM THE HAPPIEST when I feel absolutely terrific about myself when I am
in control of every aspect of my life, when I know when to say yes and
when to say no to my delight.
On my recent
trip through Europe I met many of my "old" Swiss friends,
now honored grandmothers like I am. They each enjoy their life
according to their priorities and their choices. Some like to dedicate
their time to helping their sons and daughters live a financially more
comfortable lifestyle while taking little or no time for themselves.
Others are creative with handicrafts and amuse themselves with
exciting hobbies, practice sports and travel the world, but especially
they take time for being themselves.
Carla is in her
fifties and lives in the Italian part of Switzerland. She too is a
grandmother of her daughterís son. For more than ten years Carla
came to my house when I lived in Lugano, to iron our laundry and to
help me in our large household. She is a lovely dedicated lady. Her
naturally undulated black hair and dark brown eyes bring out her
Italian origin. Though she lives many years in Switzerland, she kept
her charming accent of southern Italy.
hard as a housekeeper of three big apartment houses. Daily she cleans
from early morning to late in the evening including her own house to
keep the family budget in an abundant flow. Her husband, also Italian,
a professional electrician, is since years without a job. He assists
her in the heavy garden and pool maintenance tasks. Beside all this
Carla brings up her eight-year-old grandson John, son of her divorced
daughter. The little boy is so full of spit and vinegar that he is a
challenge for grandma. While her daughter goes to school to improve
her salary, it became a matter of fact that grandma bring up vivacious
John. Little she can say to the spoilt youngster as he is the boss.
time for myself to relax," Carla sighed frowning, with one eye
smiling and one eye crying. "I like to love and spoil my only
grandson, but I want to say Yes or No to my daughter when it pleases
me." Carla asked for advice. I shared the following story with
Patricia is a
student of the University of Healing, a queen who knows how to live in
her inner kingdom. She is a happy grandmother and makes her choices in
life to her satisfaction. Her uninhibited way of doing things reflect
her regal body expression, how she comports herself chin up, tummy in
how straight she walks, how definite she talks and how much she
respects herself. Determined in her decisions, she creates her life to
trained herself early. She and her seven children moved to the United
States leaving Guyana just shortly before her husband passed away.
Here she stood alone in a foreign country challenged to feed and
educate her angels by herself. Night and day she worked for her
fledglings, putting all seven through college and this with great
success. Today each represents a high position in their profession and
is a lovely parent.
Patricia now in
her sixties, is a fulfilled grandmother of eleven magnificent
grandchildren. She could have her hands full caring for one or the
other now living all over the world. However, Patricia lives her
principles. She loves herself; she respects herself and appreciates
the time she takes for her meditations and spiritual studies. Besides
all she is a dynamic minister living the words of Jesus: love your
neighbor as yourself!
blesses her four sons and three daughters and her genius grandkids and
surrounds her family in her pure white light of love the greatest gift
with which she enriches them. Whenever it pleases her, she is there to
play and spoil them with her sparkling, sunny personality.
when to say YES or when to say NO! She stands up for her decision as
it pleases her. She said: "It always pays off to be honest to
One day, one of
her daughters asked her to baby-sit their three-year- old son.
going to a party," the daughter explained.
party you are going?" Pat was curious to know.
and Ireneís 25th anniversary, the daughter answered, pointing to the
one Holiday Inn Hotel around the corner.
sorry," Patricia, replied with ready wit, "Iím going to
the same party!"
Carla looked at
me with perplexed eyes, helplessly folding her hands in front of her
really dared to speak up like this, I wish I could do this,"
Carla mumbled to herself, intimidated by her own attitude.
courageous lady Patricia must be! What would my daughter think if I
would act so," she still was concerned.
I smiled while patting her on her shoulder.
thinks what you think for you create her according to your positive or
negative thoughts. The simplest way of any perfect achievement is to
tickle your inner laughing place and sing and affirm the truth about
yourself: I LIKE ME! I LIKE ME, I LIKE ME! You will align with the
truth and have that selfconfidence to make your perfect decisions.
Your new attitude will reflect on your daughterís life and on all
those around you. Your whole world will be joy and happiness because
you stand up for what YOU want. Being sincere to yourself is being
true to yourself and to all your creation.
Yes, Carla, I
added. Pat went to the party. She danced through the night just like
you told me you like to do. The difference is that you dream about it
while she acts upon her dreams.
We are royals
just like Pat. We walk with crowned head and see everyone wearing
their tiara of divinity.
Whatever game I
play, child, teenager, married or not married, mother, father or
grandparents, I know when to say YES or NO to my delight.
Today is my
first day: I stand up for who I am!
Dr Ellen Jermin